During the fall of 2003 I had the great privilege of
doing my practicum at Calgary Community
Conferencing. My practicum was an opportunity
for me to see how the concepts and theories I
studied, apply to real situations. My education in
Conflict Transformation allowed me to study a
wide range of courses, where I studied,
among other things, theories of conflict
transformation and restorative justice.
The power of fear in the unknown,
reclaiming people after wrongdoing, and
punishment versus accountability were
some of the concepts explored.
Many victims of personal crime never have
the chance to meet face to face with the
person who violated/hurt them and are often
left with many questions and feelings of fear
And anxiety. Those who do have an opportunity to
have questions answered and their assumptions of
the other challenged often have less fear
afterwards.
In one Community Conference I observed, a
fifteen year old boy met
face to face with the
owner of a home, he
had broken into. Before
the conference the boy's
father was convinced
the victim would blame
him for his son's actions
and this belief made it very difficult for him to
support his son. At the conference the boy talked
in detail about the break and enter. The victim
described the fear he felt when discovering
someone had been in his house. He was very
surprised to see a young fifteen-year-old sitting
across from him at the conference because as he
walked through the house with a knife in hand the
day he was robbed, he was expecting to come face
to face with an armed and dangerous intruder, not
a nice looking teenage boy. A stereotype he had
was clarified in the face-to-face meeting.
The homeowner expressed his support to the boy's
parents and said supporting their son after such an
incident was very honourable of them. This was
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important for the boy's father to hear because of
the anger he was feeling toward his son just prior
to the conference. This approach created the
opportunity for this boy to be seen as making a big
mistake but not necessarily being a bad person.
In the community
conference, the victim's
questions were answered,
his fear about the dangerous
person who broke into his
house was diminished and
the boy held accountable for
his actions and reclaimed by
the community people
around him.
There is a quote by Rupert Ross in his book,
Returning to the Teachings, that cautions about the
dangers of only punishing people, especially young
people, without creating opportunities for
accountability and reclaiming;
I don't know how to lock up and torture the
"offender-parts" of people, while comforting the
hurting parts, teaching the curious parts,
nourishing the starved parts, unearthing the
hidden parts, emboldening the cautious parts and
inspiring the dreaming parts..I worry.that we are
too quick to let our offender labels blind us to all
the other parts of most of the people brought to
court, especially young people (106).
Conferencing creates an opportunity for young
people to be held personally accountable for their
actions, be reclaimed into their communities, for
harmed people to have their questions
answered and for everyone's fear of the other to be
dispelled by learning more about each other. My
practicum was a wonderful opportunity for me to
apply the knowledge I acquired through my
education, something I must remember to do in all
areas of my life.
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